The main focus is letting go of what we love (or think we love) in order to hold on to Jesus (or rather, find that he is holding onto us!).

 Jesus names it in the Sermon on Mount, loving people who love us is not hard.  Yet we are not just called to love those who are like us, or who love us.  We are called to bring God’s love to those who God places in our lives.

Helping someone be self-sufficient is a goal that parents aim for as their children age.  We want our kids to be able to care for themselves and not need to lean on us for everything. Yet scripture makes clear that we are designed for relationship, for leaning on each other, for trusting and loving others.